Toss that judgement out the window.
Say what? That’s right I said, toss judgement out of the window.
Compassion starts with self, and often we are own worst critic. If we are in a place where we are constantly judging ourselves, how can it be expected that we would be able to extend a helping heart to someone else.
In a society that focuses on making judging, it’s hard to find your way out of the pile. It doesn’t help when our default setting is making judgements. Our ancestors had to make judgements everyday as a matter survival. As culture developed and technology grew, we no longer had to make those judgmental decisions, our attention turn inwards and out to others.
Being non-judgmental takes awareness and practice. To come from a place of non-judgment we must be aware in the moment and of our intentions, to acknowledge our emotions or those of others, to leave behind our own biases, and provide empathy, a listening ear and open heart.
There’s one in every bunch. The one person who doesn’t quite get it. The person who asks tons of question that not only confuse themselves more, but everyone else in the room. It’s the one who monopolizes all of the allotted time and no new news is conveyed or learned. And everyone groans when they start speaking. I just want to shake them.
The passive aggressive person can be more annoying than the aggressive or narcissist because you never know where you stand with them. They are elusive and always try to hide what they’re feeling. Rather then have an adult conversation, even if it’s hard to have, they play close to vest, being angry and making everyone uncomfortable, and holds onto perceived grudges as mumbling under their breath.
My catty comments come from my pet peeves or people watching and being judgemental. Be warned.
So why at 7:30 in the morning did I see someone come in Speedway in her slippers and slip into the beer cave and came out with a 12 back.
We all know one. It’s the person who is forever the three-year-old because everything is about ego. They’re always chanting, “Me, me, me.” The narcissist is unwilling to see other’s point of view because theirs is the only one they see, I mean come on they have Smurf named Vanity who’s base on Narcissus (Greek Myth). Extremely argumentative, they will talk over you or continuously make comments, interrupting you as you’re speaking.